I thought I'd take some time and make another post regarding this rather than address any individual posts. First and foremost, let me just say - I haven't made any games (yet) that include NTR as a theme.

Let's cover what NTR is not:

• If you have interest in a woman and she doesn't know you exist, thus carrying on her sexual and romantic life without you. = Not NTR.
• If she's dated someone before you - aka "existed "or "breathed".  (You guys better watch out, I hear 100% of all women fall into the category!)= Not NTR.
• If your rival held her hand, finger blasted her, etc prior to any kind of relationship or involvement to or with you. = Not NTR.
• Another male existing / flirting with / hitting on "your girls" aka your "love interests". = Not NTR.

You might feel a certain way about seeing these in a game, but none of these are "NTR". So what is NTR?

Well, simply put - infidelity with humiliation /self indulgence aspects.  But wait..what is normal infidelity? Infidelity is when two or more people are knowingly in a committed relationship, and one or more parties engage in cheating.

Examples of Infidelity:

• You're married but you bang the secretary. (Dirty slut you.)
• She's married but she sucks off the mail man. ( I mean..she was bored - right?)
• You're engaged, but you decide to step out on her. (It's her fault for fucking the mailman, even though you fucked the secretary first. >:[ )
• You're in a poly relationship with 3 babes, but you go behind your wives backs to sleep with another one.( Because, what's one more..amirite?)

In each instance, all parties are presumably in a committed relationship. Now let's take a look at some examples of NTR. NTR is a particular type of infidelity where one or more parties get pleasure from the fact that they are being "cucked" aka, cheated on.

Examples of NTR:

• Your wife tripped and fell on your neighbors cock. You walked in but instead of breaking it up, you decide to watch (and jerk off to it).
• You invite your boss over to meet your wife. You all have drinks, then pass out. Meanwhile your boss is banging your wife in the next room. Your wife is conflicted because it's clearly wrong....but she likes it.
• Your girlfriend (committed, mind you) was extorted into sex with blackmail photos , a video was made and then it was sent to you. Now you feel humiliated (and quite possibly turned on). She feels like a total slut, but can't stop herself from indulging and being used as such.
• You cheat on your wife and she finds out about it, suffering humiliation but...curiosity to the situation. In the end, she frames you to sleep with her sister and joins in.
• You sleep with another man's wife and rub it in his face (most of you don't seem to have problems with this, my guess is that it's okay if "you do it". (A bit hypocritical, but I'm not judging).

You need to be in a committed relationship, one that all  parties acknowledge AND meet special requirements for the NTR kink to even activate. Watching someone you don't know / haven't met have sex with someone other than you isn't NTR, it's voyeurism.  I understand some players have certain fantasies, but that doesn't necessarily change the definition of the thing. Furthermore, a woman having had sex prior to meeting the main character doesn't classify as NTR either. 

Normally I wouldn't make a big deal of this, but kink distinction is important. It's how we find the things we like. Please find a better way to articulate your distastes.

- My Big Little Brother